I would like some advice about my relationship,please.?

I have been with my partner for 7 years, and we have 3 children. The eldest isn't his, he's 11, then we've got a 6 year old boy, and now we have an 8 month old girl. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for a long time, but it's become a lot worse since I had my daughter. I've always done everything for him, he's never had to lift a finger. But lately i've been all over the place and the house hasn't been as tidy as it normally would, and i've had a hard time disciplining the kids. But my partner thinks that he shouldn't have to do anything here because he goes to work. The baby has been waking in the night and he's never got up to help, and on the weekends he just sits at the computer and lets me try and deal with everything when i'm obviously having a hard time dealing with myself let alone everything else. He says to me,'; I do my s**t, you do yours';. He does NOTHING at home, yes I know he goes to work but my working goes on 24/7 but i'm hopeless if I leave a mess. HELPI would like some advice about my relationship,please.?
you need to stop and evaluate your situation, and your relationship. If you were being the super mom before, and he did nothing because you did it all, maybe that's become a pattern. you need help raising children. he needs to be active and participating. you need help in a 24 hour job, just as he has his job. if nothing else gives right now, you should seek the guidance from therapy. and couples therapy could save your marriage, if not your sanity.


you also need to find a way to make time spots for you alone. any relatives that can sit for you for a spell in the mean time? whether its taking a bath to begin with, uninterrupted sleep, or a mind clearing walk. if you aren't healthy, your children will not be either. the old adage if moms not happy, no one is, is true.


Good luck, and call counseling now for an appointment.





PS, you started, good. its a long road back, and if this man is happy to treat you in a way you find UN honorable, then you may need take bigger steps. see if you can just leave him with the kids one after noon if you need to try the higher dosage, of have friends sit for the kids, and try. very smart not to do it while you are in charge of the kids.


Good luck, and have perseverance, because your drive to succeed will be what sees you throughI would like some advice about my relationship,please.?
everything your saying you really need to tell HIM not us. tell him that his work may go on for 8 or 10 hours, but yours is a 24 hour job, and you're going need to help with it, and put your foot down and say that if he doesn't help, then you have to seperate. Also, put on his conscience that if he's not doing anything for the kids, he's basically choosing not be in their life. That may make him think things over.





Also, you've been saying that you have anxiety and depression, well therapy is the best way to go, go as soon as possible too.


Good luck!
You husband should be supporting you more. You should go on Wife Swap
that sounds terrible, i'm so sorry. you're obviously extremely depressed and it may get dangerous. dangerous because you are not capable of caring for your children. you should seek for help counseling. your family to help you out with the kids so you can take care of yourself. your partner has failed in his partnership. he is not being considerate and is not acknowledging your needs, and that's not okay. he is not there for you or the kids right now so you should rethink that relationship. he is not aware of your feelings and is not helping you when you need it. so sorry best of luck do seek help even if it's meeting with a counselor once a week. you can even walk into an emergency room and they can help you. planned parenthood too. ;-)
Wow, are we ever in the same boat. I'm a stay at home mom too and it sucks. He needs some kind of wake up call. I really hate it when guys get this caveman attitude that all they have to do for their kids is get the woman pregnant and then it's all our problem. I wish I knew what to tell you to do. There's the obvious ';talk to him'; but I'm sure you've done that. Maybe on one of his days off, you need to leave the house and stick him with the kids. As a mom myself, I know it will be hard to do, but know that he has as much interest in keeping the kids alive as you do, so he'll survive. Hopefully, it will show him what you do everyday and when he's exhausted from it, point out the laundry, dishes, cooking dinner, baths..etc. maybe then he'll, on some guy level, understand that you work too. Good luck.
damn idk thats tough make him help really talk to the guy im sure he would understand he u actually speak to him
the answer is obvious--you're working 24/7, he's not, he should help you when he gets home. of course, he'll probably be stubborn about it. chances are he won't listen to you, although you should definitely confront him about it (be resolute) and in the end you will have to pay some psychologist to say all of this (only difference is he has some alleged insight into the matter that normal people don't have). whatever you do, don't get into a shouting match, especially if the children are around, and definitely don't go on Dr. Phil.
im not married but i know that the way hes treating u isnt right! Have u talked to calmly yet? You might want to try some counseling together maybe that will help!!!
in effort to ';please'; him you have allowed and enabled him to develop this pattern of life





confront him not attack him in regard to the way things presently are and your desire for betterment for and from all of you





in regard to yourself - your medical health care provider can offer you something to help with your post delivery ';feelings'; - many of which are not addictive but will offer you some help in regard to mental and physical stamina





best wishes to you all