im a really shy guy and because of that i have ruined many chances of being with some really beutiful women who even put themselves out there for me. ive been told that im decent looking but i just dont seem to beable to do anything right. any adive it would be appreciatedSeeking advice about me?
It's just a matter of time, it will come to u soon that there is nothing to be shy about. in the biggining everybody is a little shy and nervous but as the relationship or the affair progresses the jitters that u have will slowly fade away and u will share a certain comfort level with your partner and it applies to all relationship and not only on love life, remember when u first met ur friends u were not as open to them as ur now......right? So don't worry it's just a matter of time.
All the best deep......have fun!!!!!!!Seeking advice about me?
best thing is to do is read about what not to do.
Shed the shyness and everything will be fine.
Fear of women can actually become a HABIT that
leads to failure. hy is it that when we see a woman that we'd
like to meet, we don't just walk over and start
talking to her?
What is it that we're doing inside of our heads
that is preventing us from just DOING IT?
Why do we prevent ourselves from being
successful, when it would be SOOOO EASY?
And, an even MORE interesting question is:
How do we overcome this self- defeating pattern
of thought and action?
The short answer is that most of us guys let
our initial EMOTIONAL REACTIONS and our
IMAGINATIONS keep us from taking action.
In other words, we see a woman we'd like to
meet, we become nervous (for reasons we can't
explain logically), we feel FEAR, we make all
kinds of negative MENTAL IMAGES, and we finally
just decide that it isn't worth it... so we just
walk away.
But, isn't this CRAZY behavior?
I mean, it doesn't make any sense at all when
you REALLY reflect and think about it, right?
Doesn't it make sense that we should just
REALIZE that nothing bad is going to happen, and
instantly change how we behave towards women?
Now that we KNOW what we do, shouldn't we be
able to just walk out the door and start meeting
women RIGHT NOW?
Well, first you have to BREAK THE HABIT of
making yourself feel BAD and AFRAID, and LEARN the
habit of making yourself feel GOOD and OPTIMISTIC.
Remember, you've been doing things the way you
do them for a long time now, so it might take some
PRACTICE to be able to do this in the moment every
time you need to...
Here are some action steps:
1) Take some time to vividly imagine the BEST
possible outcome of walking up and talking to a
woman that you find attractive. Every time you see
a woman that you'd like to meet, just do this. Try
it for a few days. Then realize that this BEST
outcome is far more likely than your WORST idea of
what could happen. Read that again. Your BEST
outcome IS FAR MORE LIKELY than your worst.
2) Make a ';realistic'; list of the worst things
that could happen, then decide exactly what you'd
do if any of them actually did happen. You'll
realize that you can deal with them and live
through it.
3) Realize that NOT taking the risk to meet a
woman is actually a BIGGER risk in the LONG RUN of
your overall life. If you risk NOT meeting her,
you'll never know what might have happened, and if
you let it become a habit, it will keep you from
realizing ALL your dreams in life.
Think about it... in any given situation, YOU
have the opportunity to make a ';free bet';: Your
bet is you walking over and starting a
conversation.
Possible loss: Getting turned down.
Possible gain: Use that creative imagination.
You do the math.
This is like going to Las Vegas and having a
casino say to you, ';OK, you can bet all day long
as much as you want. If you win, you keep all the
money. If you lose, you lose nothing.';
Are you with me?
Use this concept to go out and overcome your
habit of not talking to women. Do it now.
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