Need some advice about my daughter's situation...?

with her boyfriend. You can read my past questions to get the nitty gritty of this drama. Anyway, she's 18, and pregnant, graduates high school next weekend. Well, she's dating the guy that got her this way, but they are always fighting, and he keeps her in tears. Yesterday, he had her upset all day. My daughter is upset, because he's still hanging with his stoner buddies, won't get a decent job, and won't stand up to his mother. The mom doesn't want him working in any job that he can get hurt at, and won't sign for them to get married until he's of age. Should I just continue to stay out of things? What should I do?Need some advice about my daughter's situation...?
You know that this guy is no good for your daughter. However, you can tell her this truth until you are blue in the face and you still won't get her to see things for what they are. I can most certainly understand what you are going through. I had a younger cousin, who decided to marry a guy who was a dead beat father of eight children, count'em 8 children, by 4 or 5 different women, and the guy barely kept a job. Turned out he was even cheating on his last child's mother when he started dating my cousin. To make a long story short, her mom, appealed to me and some of our other male cousins to try to talk some sense into her. We gave every rational reason in the book why she shouldn't marry him but our advice only seem to push her push her closer to him. As an end result she wound up marrying the bum and after only a year she learned he was having an affair with a 16 year old, (her husband was 35 at the time). Needless, to say she finally came to her senses and divorced the bum. Sometimes regardless of how much you love your child and how hard you try, children sometimes have to learn things the hard way. All you can really do is to keep loving and praying for your daugther. Hopefully, she will come to her senses sooner, then later. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Peace and God bless.Need some advice about my daughter's situation...?
Sounds like you're already paying for it all anyway. Talk to her about what she wants out of a relationship and let her know that she can find someone better who will love her and the baby.
Why have you not been supporting her while she was in highschool? Why was she living with her boyfriend and still in highschool?





She needs time apart from him.





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I know several kids who have done that. I was just wondering about the home situation and if that could have had something to do with her leaving. So many kids have it so hard.





Good luck making a decision. It will hold lifelong consequences.
tricky sito, but you are a good mum for supporting her.


and i think thats about all you can do at this stage...
I'd tell her she's a grown woman now and soon to be a mother and on graduation day, she should pack her things and move. if she chooses to play games with bozo, she can do them on her own dime. I suggest adoption for the baby. These two kids are too immature to be parents.
This might not help, but in most states, if the female is pregnant, they can get married without parental consent.
I'm 26...so not that much older than your daughter...but have had a bit more life experience, and a relationship that sounds somewhat similar to your daughter's in some regards. There are times when parent's have to step back and let their children grow up- I'm glad you acknowledge that....however, at 18- although she is technically legal...she's still a baby in many ways.





It's obvious you love her child. So, sit her down and have a talk with her. She's pregnant and her responsibility is now to that child. Her being constantly upset and in tears is not a great thing whether she is pregnant or not...but since she is- its a big deal. She's young, and might not want to listen- but you're still her mother and she's living under your roof. You have to make her understand that she's going to be a mother now- and her energy is to be spent on that child- not being upset on some kid who hasn't grown up yet and who probably won't for a long time. She won't realize this until she's probably dealt with it. But, I do congratulate her on graduating highschool.





I would also encourage her NOT to marry the child's father. Explain to her your reasons why- I would take it an approach as you don't hate him type deal- but as you can still be a family without having a marriage certificate. And, that she should be a positive role model for her child- and that includes having her child grow up in a household where parents are not always fighting, where there are no drugs, etc. Good luck.
If they are always fighting that is not a way to start a marriage, and after they get married the fighting would probably get worse. You probably should talk to her about the fighting. Her life would just go down hill even worse. If she can stay with you and your husband even after the baby is born maybe the best thing for her to do is have the court system get him to pay to support the child. Them getting married would not be a good solution. I feel for you guys.
u can't do much about making the boy sum up to his responsibility. Don't make ur ddaughter feel like she has to marry this jerk. You keep doing what ur doing- support your daughter and help her get that guy on child support as soon as the baby is born so his mom ca see what an idiot she is for raising a little punk for a son. Good luck! and help ur daughter never turn your back on her she needs you now more than ever.
speak to her and ask her to move away from him... if he cant stand on his feet now, when does he plan to??? its hard, but try to convince your daughter for this!!!
How could you let things deteriorate to this condition? You are the parent of a minor. Saying ';I told you so'; now ain't gonna help.





In order for your daughter to have a decent future, you should consider either abortion or adoption, break them up, and send your daughter to college. Otherwise, you and your husband will be dragged down for years to come.